Archive for July 23, 2011

The Favourite Member

Posted in Tankar och funderingar, Uncategorized on July 23, 2011 by Sara Hammerzmith

Of all my really close bands I have a favourite member. Kita, Stala, Simon Cruz, Pepe Salohalme, Kicken, Teeny, Oscar Dronjak, Jepson, Leo Leoni and so on. This is the people in the band that somehow spoke to me in some way, it’s something about them that I really like for no special reason. For some of these persons, I have even met and interacted with a lot, and become “close” to (not close as a friend, but as a fan), some of the recognize me by sight and even say hello when they see me.

These people are necessarily not at all the best musicians in the world, or in the band. Some of them might even be pretty mediocre. What makes them the favourite member, is the chemistry. The chemistry between Me and Them. I remember with Kita. He was standing on the drums, waving his drumsticks. It was after the victory of ESC. And I just fell for him. I don’t know why I remember it so clearly, but still. After this, I met him on almost every show I’ve seen him on. He has been extremly kind to me each time, and that’s why he have stayed my favourite member. I still like and love all the others in Lordi, but it’s something about Kita that makes him… closer.

Same with Pepe, Simon, Kicken and the rest. I don’t know particulary how they spoke to me, but they did, and it have lasted strongly.

Today a fanpage of Crashdiet asked the members of it to write their favourite member. I think each and everyone, including Dave Lepard and Olliver Twisted had one lover at least. Then we have some Olliver-haters. What the fuck.

But that’s not it. What caught my attention, was the people saying “Any real fan can’t have a favourite member”.
Well. Yes, obviously we can. I just feel closer to Simon for various reasons I don’t intend to bring up. It’s about human chemistsy, like I stated, not wheter he is the best musician in the band or not.

Second thing they said was “There is only one true Number one and that is Dave, why aren’t everyone saying that“.

Okay. That is just ridiculous. I respect Dave Lepard very highly, and the circumstances with him is extremly tragic. But. I was NOT a fan of Crashdiet when he was in it, I didn’t even know they existed until he died. Nor did I know him. I actually found out about his departure from a friend I met through another band, who was rather close to Dave.

Okay, back on topic. I don’t know him in any kind of way and was not a fan when he was alive. It is extremly, and would be, extremly disrespectful from my side, to say that I love him and miss him, when I never had him in my life. You can’t really miss someone you never had, you know?

Kitas departure from Lordi was something very difficult for me, because of mine and his state of relationship (so to speak). If anyone, would come and a new Lordifan and all of a sudden say they MISS Kita and LOVE HIM when they NEVER met him.. I’ll go beserk. Because if they miss and love him, who never had him in his life or never met him (as Kita), how much don’t I miss him then?

I’d rather say that the disrespectful people in this case, is the people who think you should “love” and “miss” Dave Lepard because you “should” not because you actually do. I respect him. A Lot. And I feel very sorry for his close ones for their loss, all my condolences. But. I don’t miss him. I don’t love him. I didn’t know him.  So sorry. I can’t say I love him or miss him. If it makes me a bad person, then go ahead and hate me. But you really need to think about the one who ACTUALLY knew him.

He is not the best singer. He is not the most attractive singer.
 But he is my favourite singer.

// Sara